The gender pay gap starts in our homes
When the WGEA released their latest reports on the gender pay gap, and then the National Working Families Survey released their latest findings. The disparity between 74% of women feeling stressed juggling work and family, compared to 57% of men, indicates there is an urgent need to address this imbalance.
Transforming Co-Parenting: Strategies for a Fulfilling Relationship
A truly fulfilling co-parenting relationship is one where it’s safe to express how you feel, you feel you are understood and valued and can talk about what your family wants and needs without blaming or shaming.
Empowering our children: Navigating identity, worthiness and choices
Last night at dinner, my son shared with me that a few of the children at his school are self-harming frequently and one of the mums recently had to hide the paracetamol in the home for fear of her son taking an overdose.
The Weight Off Your Shoulders: Strategies for Reducing the Mental Load
There were times when my children were younger that I felt like I was doing most of the thinking about how they were playing with friends…were they being kind, were they being supportive, were they being treated fairly.
How to Thrive When You’re Torn in Multiple Directions
I dropped off my parents at the airport yesterday morning. They were visiting from the UK. (If you’ve been following my mum’s miraculous journey through Covid, you can read about the latest blessing here).
The Mental Load of Parenting: The 3 Biases That Exhaust Families
Ever wondered how some people seem so comfortable getting through the overwhelming, overloading number of tasks we have once we become parents? I’ve talked a lot about sharing mental load but today I want to talk about the biases that underlie the majority of the mental load in families. Specifically, three types of bias can operate unconsciously and contribute to how exhausted we feel on a day-to-day basis.
Finding Your Way Back to Each Other After Having Kids
Parents come to me for a myriad of reasons in relation to their parenting. Often the driver is their child is experiencing regular outbursts, not cooperating, constantly pushing back, and saying mean and hurtful things, and they’ve tried everything they can, and what they have tried has not worked.
My family review and the 3 most important questions to ask your child
We’re heading into the summer holidays here in Australia so we’ll be taking a few weeks to rest and recharge ahead of an epic 2023!
Different Ways to Think About Work-Life Balance for Working Parents
The term work-life balance implies there is a holy grail way to live life and work in specified portions that will output a good quality of life. Whilst traditionally we looked at time spent at work versus outside of work.
4 Ways to Empower Your Child with the Power of Choice (Even if it’s against the crowd)
We need to build our children to be okay to meet their own feelings and needs from early age, especially with the degree to which they are influenced by the external environment, including the internet and social media.
There is nothing more important than your child’s mental health (TRIGGER WARNING)
What was really happening was I’d never learned how to bounce back from adversity. I had extremely low self-esteem and my perfectionism ran so deep that if I did something wrong, I couldn’t forgive myself.
How you parent may not be your fault but it is 100% your responsibility
Learning that how I parent was not my fault but 100% my responsibility was both empowering and terrifying in equal parts.
Children Don’t Need You To Be Perfect, They Need You To Be Human.
Some things got shoved under our bed and in cupboards that I hoped and prayed no one would open, because if they did they’d discover that I’m not perfect after all.
Leading a toddler or a teen..are the skills the same?
I frequently get asked what age is your parent program for?
One leadership skill is listening. Listening in a way that a child feels heard and understood is transformative to your child hearing you and your requests and building trust and connection in your relationship.
The 3 most important truths I’ve learned as a parent
I don’t have to have it all figured out. I don’t have to have all the answers. I need to be ready to ask questions that will help us move forward, like What can I learn here? What can I do better? And learn and grow from there.
Often as parents we feel like we should just KNOW what to do. The truth is we’re figuring it out as we go. Every new stage with our child brings new learnings.
10 questions to ask your child to learn about who they are
When children give themselves permission to be themselves, they no longer need to pretend to be something or someone else. They no longer need to prove who they are to the world or us as their parents.
7 Practices That Led Me To Enjoy Parenting Again
All my norms were challenged - the way I ate, the way I slept, my personal hygiene (every parent knows kid-free showers are like gold dust in the early days!). Not to mention the way I could work and go out afterwards (without a ton of nappies and paraphernalia weighing me down!).
FED UP of Your Child Lying? This is How to Make it Stop.
When a child first says something that we know is not true, we have the opportunity to shape how they label that behaviour. So for example, instead of labelling the behaviour as “lying” we can say they are “testing boundaries” or “being creative with their words”
How To COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CHILD SO THEY CAN HEAR YOU
If you find yourself repeating yourself over and over and your child still doesn’t listen. And you’ve tried various different strategies and they work sometimes but not at other times.
Or you find you get an emotional outburst when you ask your child to come for dinner or come off a screen.
Then read on because this is for you.
The biggest mistakes parents make when trying to motivate their kids
You’ve asked your child to do something and they still haven’t moved. You’ve tried to be polite, you’ve stayed calm and you’re feeling proud of how you’ve kept it together..until..