Embracing Your Blindspots for a Stronger Connection with your Child

Something I hear frequently from parents is the assurance that they're okay, that they're getting through the challenges of parenting. And what they don’t always recognise is that sometimes we need help to see what we can’t see - our blind spots. 

What happens when you’re unaware of your blind spots is that you end up struggling through challenges instead of trying to find solutions. This lack of awareness can affect you showing up for your child in the way that they need. 

A common scenario I come across is when one parent finds it more challenging to handle a child's behavior compared to the other parent. Whether it's hitting, destructive behavior, antagonising siblings, or refusing to listen, the root cause is not a lack of love, calmness, or intent from the parent. Often, parents can remain composed several times before becoming frustrated. It is typically a blindspot in their thinking and approach to parenting that is causing the struggle.

Unaddressed blindspots can cause your child to struggle to connect with you and they can feel unheard or dismissed. However, once you can uncover and address your blindspots you see a reduction in tantrums and outbursts. Your child feels seen, understood, and more connected to you, leading to increased listening and cooperation. And a happier parent and child.  

The beauty of uncovering your blindspots is that they often extend beyond your relationship with your child. These blindspots can impact various relationships, such as your partner, friends, extended family members, and even colleagues at work. By addressing them, you can enhance your overall communication and connection with others. 

Every child is so different and every parent is so different. There is no one size fits all in raising happy humans.  By embracing and understanding your blindspots, you can create an environment where both you and your child can enjoy family life to the fullest. 
 

Much love, 

Dina